How Will I Get Through This Divorce?

It’s a question that often comes with a mix of fear, heartbreak, confusion, and sometimes even relief — How will I get through this? Whether the divorce was expected or came out of the blue, it can shake the very foundations of your life. 

Divorce isn’t just the end of a relationship — it can feel like the loss of a shared future, the unravelling of routines, identity, and even your sense of safety. There’s often grief, even if the decision was mutual. There might be anger, guilt, pain, fear or deep uncertainty about what comes next. It’s not unusual to feel like you’re swinging from emotional overload when you have a break to a numb ‘autopilot’ feeling when you just need to get things done. 

In my work as a therapist, I’ve supported people through the process of separation and divorce — and while no two experiences are the same, the common thread is that it often brings up much more than just the practical side of things. There are questions around co-parenting, managing finances, navigating loneliness, and rebuilding self-worth. It can touch on childhood wounds, attachment patterns, and long-held beliefs about love, failure, or identity. 

Therapy can be a steadying force during a time like this. It offers a place to process the emotional whirlwind — without judgement, pressure, or anyone telling you to “move on.” It’s a space where you can grieve, rage, remember, reflect — and slowly start to rebuild. 

In therapy, you can begin to make sense of what happened and how it’s affected you. You might explore how the relationship shaped you, how your needs were met or unmet, and what you want going forward. It’s not about rushing to a solution — it’s about staying connected to yourself as you find your way through the pain, confusion, and change. 

This kind of support can help you hold steady when things feel chaotic. It gives you room to honour your feelings and to rediscover your strength, step by step. You don’t have to go through it all alone. 

If you're in the midst of a separation or trying to find your footing after a breakup, therapy can offer a compassionate, grounded space to work through it all. You’re allowed to take your time — and you don’t have to have all the answers right now. Healing is possible, and support is here if and when you need it.